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April 30, 2008

Adlai the Four Month Old

It's been a while since we reported just on Adlai's doings and four-month-old Adlai is a pretty interesting little guy. First off, he's REALLY happy. Sure, I'm biased, but I'm not sure I've come across such a happy baby. He's not that kind of quiet smiley observant happy, he's full bodied squealing loudly like-a-teenage-girl-at-a-rock-concert happy. When I come home from work he wraps his arms around my neck, squeals loudly, and attacks my shoulders with his open mouth. That's his gentle way of saying "BOOBS. PLEASE. NOW."

He's also pretty clever. Grandmother put him down for a nap last week and came back to find that he had kicked out of his blanket, rotated to face his musical crib aquarium, and was kicking the shell which turns the music on and off. At first we were dubious that this was intentional but a week later (after almost always finding him over in that side of the crib with his feet kicking the same toy) we're sure he wants the music on and has taken matters into his own hands (or, rather, feet).

We've been feeding him rice or oatmeal cereal for three weeks now and often it seems like his stomach is a bottomless pit. He easily makes it through a cup of powder mixed with six ounces of formula. Since servings are supposed to be measured in tablespoons, not cups, we're impressed by his intake. And food can't be spooned in fast enough - between spoonfuls he opens his mouth as wide as possible and yells if, heaven forbid, I should take a bite of my own food before giving him another. He also gets upset watching us eat breakfast and lunch - times when he doesn't get his bowl of "real" food. Unfortuantely, he also drinks a ton so the pump and I have become fast friends once again. We started the food because his doctor suggested he needed some more calories to fatten him up but, amazingly enough, he doesn't seem to have bulked up at all. He does, however, appear to be getting taller by the second. One of these weeks he is going to grow right out of his special "for tall babies" infant car seat as well as his swing and his bouncy chair.

He's heavy into the teething at this point and almost always has his entire fist in his mouth. He finds sounds funny - the shaking ice last Sunday was falling-over-funny as were the old fashioned car horns in the Mountain View Spring Parade on Saturday. One of the drivers, noticing his delight at the sound, gave Adlai his own honk as he drove past. He's getting better at holding and shaking his own toys but finds his animated big brother Simon the ultimate in entertainment. Over the past few days he has started to make motions toward crawling. He can lift his rear end up and sit on his knees or prop himself up on his straightened arms but not both at the same time and he can't do either for very long. He's not much of a bouncer but prefers to rotate his legs in the air as if running or, if standing, he stomps his feet forward as if he's going to proudly walk right over to the action on his own. Since Simon didn't start crawling until six months, we're pretty sure we have a at least a month and a half before we need to worry about mobility. It does seem like time is flying this time around.

April 29, 2008

Mom vs. Dad

There are, of course, a number of things different about having Matthew as a stay-at-home-dad versus me as a stay-at-home-mom: With Matthew home Adlai doesn't get his daytime milk fresh out of the dairy, you won't find the iPod blaring the same song over and over and over while Simon dances around the living room, and toys tend to remain where ever they land until bedtime. To be fair, I don't play tickle monster, throw them up in the air, or have the patience to let Simon help me cook. But the most outwardly obvious sign that Matthew is in charge of the children might be their attire. The first day I left for work Matthew dressed Adlai in an outfit and socks that were two sizes too big. The second day I went to work, I found Adlai's outfit on backwards. Where I try to make their shirts, pants, and socks match, Matthew chooses clothing "themes" - you might find Adlai in three different types of stripes or four different shades of blue. Yesterday I came home to find Simon in some longish fitted shorts that I didn't recognize. He'd been wearing them all day and they were completely filthy so I took them off and inspected the tag, which read "size 6 months."

April 28, 2008

Returning to Work After a Four Month "Break"

I've been working full time for an entire week now. Oddly enough, I'm working on the same project I was working on when I left and have been given back most of the work I handed off to others. I really like designing interfaces for mobile devices and I enjoy my coworkers so, if I had to return, I'm glad it is to this work and to these people. I never thought I was cut out to be a stay-at-home mom but things have changed over the years and now I'm certain I'd be happy to be at home full time. It was really hard to come to work last Monday. By the end of the week, I counted my success by not having broken down in front of my coworkers once. Adlai is a good sleeper by baby book standards - he usually gives us one burst of 6 hours - but that stretch ends at 1 am after which point he often wakes up two or three more times and sometimes doesn't want to go back to sleep. So my emotions are tied up in complete zombie-like exhaustion. I love every minute of Adlai but a big part of me wants the minutes to pass by faster until we reach his ability to sleep 10 to 11 hours.

Matthew and I have an arrangement that we decided upon before the wee Simon was a mere speck and it has worked really well for almost four years. Obviously, since we didn't initially plan to have a second child, we didn't expect for Matthew to need to take SO much time off. But his part-time job and side projects with other game enthusiasts gives him enough stress to make him feel like a grown-up. I'm eternally grateful to him for "disrupting" his career to stay at home. I don't know how I'd ever be able to justify leaving the boys with non-family on a full time basis.

Anyway, there was one point last week when I did break down (maybe more than one but memories are fuzzy without sleep). I called Matthew from the "Mother's Room" (i.e. the dairy, the pump room, lactation central) and he told me that, on the way to school, Simon had been playing with a maze game. There is a big silver ball in the center and the goal is to get all the little balls through the maze to the big ball. Simon said "I have to get the little balls to the big ball because they miss their Mama." Simon wasn't awake when I left for work most of last week - including that morning - so, when Matthew told me about the maze, tears flowed along with the milk.

April 27, 2008

Because it is About to be Monday Again

Here's a video taken this afternoon of Simon jiggling ice in front of Adlai to make him laugh. Sorry about the camera angles - I was holding Adlai and filming him at the same time.

April 25, 2008

The Benefits of Breastfeeding

I've just been excused from jury duty by checking the box "breastfeeding mother." I guess they don't want to halt trials every few hours to give mothers the chance to pump.

April 23, 2008

Kagle Boys

Here is that great picture Laura took while we were in Washington...

Those Kagle Boys

Thanks, Laura!

[I'll be posting again by the end of the week - I just need some time off to be sad about not seeing the boys much.]

April 20, 2008

Happy Passover


Adlai gets into the spirit.


Simon "reads" from his Hagaddah.


Simon cracks the egg on Matthew's head.


Simon found the afikomen!

And Simon took his first stab at asking the "four questions"...

He says (something like):
"Why is this night different from all other nights?"
"Why do we eat bitter herbs?"
"Why do we eat charoset?"
"Why do we recline?"
"Why do we eat Matzoh?"

April 19, 2008

Final Weekend Before Returning to Work

Friday was my last week day at home. That's depressing. It was also pretty depressing that the Thursday night Adlai seemed to have forgotten how to sleep on his own. We fixed that by deciding right then and there to sleep train him. An entire night of crying and comforting later, he seems to not only have learned how to sleep on his own but is almost cured of swaddling (we're now just swaddling his torso). We were very tired Friday so we mostly spent the day at home doing our usual things and napping. We did pick up a used jogging stroller so Matthew can get some exercise with Adlai while Simon is at school.

Today we took both boys to the pool and, while Simon was having his lesson, I got into the pool with Adlai for his first swim class. He was perplexed by the experience - completely relaxed but concentrating very hard the entire time.

After swimming, Simon and I built a fence to keep people out of our newly planted herb garden. The ties were made from Matthew's ripped shorts. Simon thought that was a pretty interesting way to use old shorts.

Tonight we had a great time celebrating Calvin's fourth birthday. It's hard to believe these little guys are getting so old.

Tomorrow: Passover!

April 18, 2008

Four Months Old

Happy Four Month-a-versary Baby A.B.! When we've recovered from our sleepless night (which was entirely your fault), we'll write more.

Hey, how about that Boppy Photo Collection?

Or, a video of the four month Boppy photo shoot?

And, as always, don't forget to check out the other million photos of Adlai (updated regularly) on Flickr!

April 15, 2008

News You Can't Use

Just in case you've ever wondered...

You know that smell that contaminates urine after eating asparagus? The same thing happens to breast milk.

April 14, 2008

Mistakes

It's been an interesting 24 hours in the nursing world. I'll be brief for this will quickly become too much information. In summary, yesterday morning Adlai started spitting up blood. As is the usual course, we calmly freaked out and called the advice nurse who gave him an appointment right away. And then I fed him and figured out where the blood was coming from - me. Apparently I'd been feeding our little vampire blood all night long and just hadn't noticed. (My blood isn't actually harmful to him in any way.)

Let me point out here that nursing just isn't for me - it never really has been. I do it because of guilt and love and love and lots and lots of guilt. If formula were proven to be just as good as breast milk, I'd be running to the formula section of the grocery store. So, in any case, since I stopped using the "shields" I've been in a lot of pain but I figured it was necessary pain; the pain of breastfeeding. I figured it would go away with time.

Once I figured out it was me, we canceled the appointment for Adlai and they asked me to come in. I did. It wasn't a completely successful appointment. I'll be using the shields from now on. Adlai has learned some bad habits - things you can do to plastic boobs that you shouldn't do with the real thing - and it doesn't seem worth forcing him to adjust at this point. We only have eight months to go!

However, and this is probably the most interesting part of the experience, they weighed Adlai and found him to be an entire pound heavier than he was just last Thursday. I'm pretty sure he didn't gain a pound in four days so now I'm sure that he isn't in the 6th percentile of weight. That was a weighing mistake.

April 13, 2008

The End of Swaddle Season

A lot of people say how different their children are from each other. Ours? Not so much. Simon and Adlai appear to have the same interests (the outdoors, water, fans, books, music, silly sounds, being thrown up into the air, being mobile, etc.) and very similar personalities. Heck, let's be honest - they could be identical twins if there wasn't that 3.5 year age difference. Adlai is a little more reserved but only in that he takes comfort the way Simon never would. He has a favorite blanket, he uses a pacifier, he doesn't complain when cuddled, he is working really hard at being a finger/thumb sucker and he insists on being swaddled while sleeping. Unfortunately for him, it has been really warm for the past three nights and we don't have air conditioning which has given us a choice: bake him in a swaddle or not sleep. Last night, after two hours of failing to get him to sleep unswaddled, Matthew removed his clothing and I cut a sheet and mummified him in it. We've decided to go with the slow approach- one arm out of the swaddle this week, one arm next week, then freeing his legs until we are only swaddling his torso and then not swaddling ever again. I think that makes us swaddle free sometime in June. Oy.

By the way, Adlai ate more than a full portion of rice cereal last night. Granted, a portion is a tablespoon of cereal and an ounce of breastmilk but that's a lot for a second feeding. He did complain but the complaining was about the delivery mechanism not the meal. He can't seem to understand... why the spoon?

April 11, 2008

And the Boys Ate!

Simon was up every four hours last night, once the Tylenol wore off, with a fever spike. It was the scariest night we've ever had with him - scarier than the Night of Blood. He was so very very hot and completely delirious (he always woke up singing) and we couldn't do anything but medicate him slightly and give him more water and more ice. About 2 pm this afternoon Simon started to move about the house normally and asked for some mac and cheese. He ate and then, for dinner, asked for pasta and toast and scrambled egg and cheese and a sandwich and an apple and a pumpkin muffin and some fries and three popsicles. He didn't actually eat very much but his desire for that much food probably means he is on the mend.

In the mean time, Adlai was feeling pretty hungry and not at all feverish so we decided to give rice cereal a try. We're not sure if he hated it, tolerated it, or loved it. He cried while opening his mouth for each spoonful, swallowing it down, and made moves for the next bite. We fed him quite a bit and only stopped when he refused to swallow what was already in his mouth.

Statistics

Here are the actual measurements from Adlai's four month check-up:

Weight
4 months: 11 lbs. 13 oz. (6th percentile)
2 months: 10 lbs. 6 oz. (35th percentile)

Height
4 months: 25.5 inches (80th percentile)
2 months: 23 inches (71th percentile)

Head Circumference
4 months: 15.98 inches (17th percentile)
2 months: 15 inches (22nd percentile)

He's long and thin, just like his brother. At Simon's four-month check-up he was 50% for weight at just over 14 pounds, 90% for height at 26.25 inches and his little head was in the 25th percentile.

April 10, 2008

And Then it Got Worse

We sent Simon to school today because he was feeling well but by lunch we got a call to come pick him up. He was laying on the ground of the classroom feeling cold with a high fever. We brought him home and gave him some Tylenol which perked him up enough to eat and then the Tylenol wore off and his fever rose to nearly 103 before he vomited everything from the past few days all over Matthew.

Meanwhile, Adlai had his four month checkup this morning. It turns out he is 80th percentile for height but only 6th for weight. Last time he was 35th percentile in weight so the drop is sizeable. The doctor suggested we start feeding him cereal and that may bulk him up. Otherwise he was adorable and cheerful and healthy until we got him home and he started to poop a really odd color every 10 minutes. He also has a low fever but was given a group of shots so it could be the shots or the illness not making him feel so well.

In any case, we may not make it to any of our fun weekend events. Instead we will probably still be coughing and changing poop explosions and cleaning vomit. Fun!

April 09, 2008

Phone Photos From Today

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April 08, 2008

The Plague

We've got the plague
Yes we do!
We've got the plague
How about you?

We thought Simon was over the plague since he didn't wake up with a sore throat last night (as he had the three previous nights) but he was sent home from school this afternoon after eating no lunch and having a stinky explosion. Matthew and I are still congested and low-feverish. Adlai has a fever but is oddly cheerful.

New things for Adlai: he is starting to have a great deal of interest in watching us spoon food into our mouths, he desperately tries to turn his head in the direction of the TV when it is on, he LOVES baby tylenol, and he has started playing with toys.

More news when the plague lessens its grip.

April 06, 2008

The Chair

Originally, we were going to give Simon's chair to Adlai - until we realized what a bad reaction that would have caused. Simon loves his reading chair and it has withstood a lot of abuse. So we bought Adlai a similar chair and, after a two month wait, it finally arrived.


He'll grow into it.


A kiss from big brother?!


They can rock together.


We all fit!

April 05, 2008

Still Sick

We're still sick over here in Mountain View Kagle Central. But Adlai will FINALLY be getting his reading/nursing/rocking chair this afternoon and that almost makes it all better (at least, for me). We've moved the queen bed out of his room and into the "bonus room" (what we lovingly refer to as "the garage" because it is in fact a garage with a closet and a ceiling). Today would have been Adlai's first time in the pool but I'm not going to pollute the waters with my phlegm and he probably isn't feeling great either.

Maybe we'll take some photos today. It has been a while and today is the start of the April 4-year-old birthday extravaganza - four birthday parties in three weeks!


April 03, 2008

Calling All Fools

OK, no. Simon has never been offered a lucrative contract to star in a major motion picture. To the (at least) two people who fell for it, we offer our appreciation. If you believed that, maybe you also thought I was pregnant last year? OK , I was, but only by a week so the pregnancy stick wasn't mine (our timing was off - that one wasn't supposed to be a joke). Or maybe you thought we were moving to Florida right after we moved to Chicago? And who could forget Matthew's sudden ability to lactate?

Thanks for playing. We appreciate your continued support - foolish or not.

Adlai, Matthew, and I are not feeling so hot. Simon came down with a series of mysterious symptoms last week that went no where - an ear infection for a day, pink-eye for a day, a sore throat that never turned into a cold... He has passed this illness on to us only, in us, it provides an extended feeling of *bleh* along with some unspecified aches and sore throats. Fun.

In the mean time, Adlai has apparently been growing. He is staring to outgrow his 3-6 month clothes (without even having worn some of the more Summer-ish garb) and we moved the shoulder straps on the carseat up to the middle height. He seems to eat a lot but doesn't stay at the boob any longer than absolutely necessary. In fact he has started to SCREAM when he wants milk and it isn't coming fast enough and SCREAM again when he is tired of being fed. Adlai has a really loud scream - especially in the middle of the night. He, sadly, isn't letting me get more than a few hours of sleep in a row. He slept for seven hours in a row once last week but, since he goes to sleep for the night around 6:30 or 7 and we don't, I never get the benefit of those long stretches.

April 01, 2008

A Star is Born

So we were at the pool a couple of weeks back, when a woman sitting next to Matthew asked if that was our son. His response was something like, "Yes. That boy, the one enthusiastically splashing his teacher, is my child." The woman chuckled a little and there was the usual question about his age and then shock that he was so tall. And we agreed that, yes, he is very tall for his age - he always has been. There was a little more chit chat about Simon and Adlai and then we sat there, watching Simon enjoy his time in the pool. When class was over he skipped over and she asked, "Is he always this happy?" We assured her that he is indeed a happy kid except for when he isn't. It was then that she handed us her card and asked if we had some time to run over to the nearby park for a bit.

It turns out that she works for a casting agency in San Francisco and thought Simon would be perfect for an upcoming roll in a movie based on a famous series of children's books (we are not allowed to say which). Simon in the movies? Um... we were pretty sure that would never happen but, whattheheck, we let her play with him for a bit at the park (to "get a feeling" for his personality) and take a few photos. It went by really quickly and we didn't hear anything after that so we just let it go. Until yesterday.

We got a call early in the morning asking if we would mind bringing Simon in to a studio in Palo Alto at noon. After a hair cut and an early lunch, we took Simon to meet with the production staff. Simon played ball with one guy before showing off his amazing skills (like screaming and laughing and running and chasing). Although there is still a contract to sign, it looks like Simon got the part. They are currently in the casting phase so he won't start "working" until mid-May but, for the next month, they want to see him three times a week in San Francisco to get him comfortable with the cameras and trainers. That means the boys will all be spending a lot of time in the car for the foreseeable future but how couldn't we say "yes!"

Updates will occur as soon as we have any more information. Who would have thought we'd have a child in the movies? Not us.